Last I left off we had a HUGE fight during the holiday of 2009. As I mentioned, we didn’t divorce but I sure was more suspicious of him and everything he did.
I can’t sit here and say that’s what caused all of our problems, but things didn’t get great from this point. We bought a house and hubby found a new job which at first was a blessing. Then the new job turned into a nightmare of no time off together, opposite work schedules, alarms going off at 2 a.m. and more.
Plus at work, unlike his previous job, he worked with a LOT of women. Hubby is friendly and clueless oftentimes. You can flirt it up with him and he’ll never know he was being flirted with because he’s “just a friendly guy being nice” (his words not mine.) Suffice to say I was not keen on this environment, but I thought things would get better since our big fight.
Oh how wrong I was.
We got distant because of job and relationship stress. I sought connections with female friends….and evidently so did he. I didn’t realize though that the damn cellphone issues of texting and “sexting” and photo-sharing had continued until he was in the shower and I was snooping in his phone.
Yup I snooped. Kiss it…my husband should never have anything on his phone that I can’t see and same goes for my phone and him. So me opening it should never have led to issues.
Instead I got treated to a LOVELY photo of a college pal of his and some rather specific details of what she wanted to do with him in the shower. Mediocre writing at best, but what can you expect from a woman who goes after other women’s husbands.
Suffice to say I lost it temper wise. I screamed, he screamed, you name it.
This pattern would repeat itself every few months.
Our bedroom life was down to rare occasions and awkward time.
HOWEVER – in all of this a huge fight would happen and then we’d have several great weeks. I know, you’re wondering why I stuck around but its hard to explain the good weeks. They were really really good. We’d flirt, we’d laugh, we’d enjoy each other’s company.
We’d play video games together and eat together and share our day’s activities with each other. We had a marriage and it wasn’t a horrible one at all.
It’s so hard to explain that to someone who hasn’t been there, but despite the crap I was dealing with I didn’t feel like our marriage was well, crap. We just had to “work” through some things.
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